My bestfriend (since elementry till high school) hooked me up with my bf(my ex) we’ve been dating for almost two years he was the first guy i ever fell inlove with.
.then oneday he broke up with me because we hardly see each other
.the reason why was my bestfriend was complaining how i was always with him so then i took time off from him and started spending more time with her..
she sometimes would ask me if i was over him and i would tell her (yes) because i wanted to act strong and didnt want to annoy people with my problems(i was actually very devastated)
2 weeks later we had a school dance..i was dancing with my other friends untill i spotted my bestfriend and ex dancing together (i thought that he was drunk and being a jerk touching her and stuff)…so to protect my friend from the evil ex ..i pulled her hand and took her away from him…after she said to me *what is your problem?* and i told her *well i was just taking you away from him* (silly me trying to save her) ..then she said * OMG CANT YOU GET OVER HIM? AND JUST LEAVE US ALONE?* …………….i swear i was in shock…. :O .. i had no idea she had feelings for him too…..
days passed by..i get a phone call from hrt she asked me if it was okay for her and him (my ex) to be together…
idiot me for being too nice and in shock(what kind of question is that?like what do you think duhhhh) said *yeah sure*
so at school since we all hangout in the same group with the same ppl
they kiss and makeout infront of me all the time..(umm yeeeah pretty gross)
oneday online i asked her..*hey are we still you know best buddies 
?* since we were always avoiding each other and i really missed her .. she said to me *im sorry i never considered you or anyone my bestfriend*
(we were always bestfriend..everyone knew..we were together every single day..i was the only one she ran to when she had problems.)
she didnt know but i was in tears and even more heart broken……
so i started hanging out with different ppl..i tried to forget about him and her (the two people i loved and trusted the most..i never felt so heart broken in my life)
we started to ignore each other
it took me a year of crying myself to sleep every night to get over *my ex bestfriend and ex boyfriend*
about 1 year passed..then oneday she came to speak to me
she told me that she needed someone to talk to and had no one except me and that she feels alone
i didnt know what to say..i listened but didnt say a word.. i wish i could be there and give her a shoulder to cry on..but i felt too betrayed i felt we were just too far apart
………………………………..…
years and years later… now we are adults
I fell inlove with my soulmate he is everything to me
we have a daughter together
we’re getting married next summer ( as soon as i loose all the baby fat the sooner the better)
i realized that the reason why i was in the situation with my ex and bestfriend was because they were ment to be and i was there to guide them all along (till this day they are still together and i am very happy for them..i only wish nothing but the best for her)
Now my ex bestfriend tries to talk to me..she wants me to come over
she said we had to see each other and catch up !!
I said *ok*
but i still feel kinda wierd towards the past..maybe for her it wasnt such a big deal but for me it was!!! and i know the past is the past i should get over it. as for my ex i dont at all care about him he is whatever now..its just *her* …
i feel like im not mad at her anymore but ill never forget what happened and how much it tored me apart
… so what should i do???
am i wrong for feeling this way???
do you think i am being silly?
should i talk to her again..and be friends the way we use to..even invite her to my wedding?
I dont know please help
I don’t think you’re being silly…Having friends betray you is so hurtful
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. So nothing to lose really, you could see how it goes. But tbh, theres good reason why you may not want to…
xx
But seeing as you’ve been thinking about it, maybe meet up with her?? Hard decision, cos things like that matter loads at the time.. Though people change.. and theres a chance that later in life you might regret not giving her a second chance?? =3 Hard one though..
Advice: If you do meet up with her, don’t let her walk all over you!! Cos you say you’ve said things like ‘ok’ and ‘yeah sure’ just to agree with her, for things you don’t really believe in… “/ And you’ve got your family now, so she can’t hurt you all over again
Anyways, hope thats helped a little
Good luck!
God who cares this sounds like high school drama which will become so irrelevant when you hit the real world
Well your friend should have been upfront with you. Saving you the initial shock of finding out the way you did. On the other hand y’all weren’t together technically any more.Just depends on if you want this to come between your friendship or not. Who is more important to you?
Personally i can not trust anybody who has broken my trust in past ..and friendship is totally based on trust …
She betrayed you and it seems you’ve never received an apology. That’s why you are confused now and why it still hurts you and you can’t forget it.
I have a similar situation in my family where my step-daughter started dating my daughter’s sister-in-law’s ex-boyfriend, whose relationship was nearing its end, but they weren’t finished ending it. Well, step in my step-daughter and she started seeing this guy behind our back. We finally found out about it months later, although I knew all along what she was doing, but just didn’t have proof. This has torn our family apart and we’ve never received an apology from her. I think we’d all feel better if she’d fess up and just admit that what she did was wrong. She knew it was wrong because she snuck around with this guy and told him to not tell anybody.
In the case with your friend, I guess it’s nice that she & your ex are still together and it seems that it was meant to be, so it will be up to you to decide on whether or not you can handle being friends with her. That would be hard, but time has passed, so only you can decide if you are healed enough to let her back into your life.
in life u shud always avoid two kinds of ppl ! man whores and homewreckering women..no! not good this lady whom u miss sounds like a ***** from hell homewrecker …stay away!!!…
K, i’m not a reader but i gather you are under 18, if not..whatever.
If you never gave her consent..that’s still rude but she decided to throw away a good friend.
IF you gave her consent..whatever, you okayed it.
my opinion is: it’s junior high petty bullsh*t and that’s what’s going to happen with girls until you leave school altogether.